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26-08-2020 07:19 PM
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Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST
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Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST
Hi there, this is my first forum and having teething problems understanding how this all works, to the question- the challenge I have is setting the boundary in the first place with a loved one, without progressing to probably adding another event to the week
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Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST
@FindingStrength I am sorry to hear of this, being yelled at taps into a primitive fight/flight or freeze response which can be very hard. It makes sense to fear the notion of a reaction to a boundary with your loved one. Even those living with mental health issues need to be accountable for behaviour that's not okay We're here to sit with you in the journey. Also our help centre could be really good for a call to unpack this, you can book a chat with them confidentially here 🙂 Or chat with the team at Arafmi on 1300 554 660 (24/7).
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Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST
Requests for money. Conversations at high volume. Wishing I could say right thing and not seem so separate.
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Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST
yes balance is the hardest bit for me , I agree @Former-Member , @Bron
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Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST
@Dama Welcome and thank you for sharing A theme of the loud conversations tonight, very hard for carers 😞 This is very understandable. This notion of feeling "seperate", also quite powerful. Have you ever communicated this feeling of seperateness to your loved one?
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Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST
@Centro hello! Welcome 🙂 Teething problems are very understandable. Are you on a laptop/computer? We do find it's easier to be on that as opposed to a smaller device as it's text based and requires a lot of browser refreshing.
Thanks for sharing.. Setting a boundary for sure can be difficult, especially if we don't often do it. Is there a reason you don't want to set the boundary? Fear of their response or similar? We're here to listen and again, welcome to our community 🙂
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Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST
Thanks. I'm getting better at recognising whats mine & whats not. But I might call the help centre to discuss it more.
It is hard to distinguish the illness from the behaviours...