26-04-2016 07:57 PM
26-04-2016 07:57 PM
@Fatima - concentrating is often something that is hugely impacted by grief. My personal experience was that I never know if I could fully concentrate again, I worried about being able to complete study, hold down a job, etc. It did return, but at a point where I'd written it off.
26-04-2016 07:57 PM
26-04-2016 07:57 PM
@Heartworks it sounds like you have been bombarded with so many struggles all in the short span of 8 years. Glad to hear you found Elisabeth Kubler-Ross a helpful author on the grief subject. I have heard some people disagree with her 'stages of grief' model - moreso the idea that grief follows a chronological set of stages - however she is definitely one of the most renouned authors on the subject of grief. I love that quote too "It will be alright in the end. If it's not alright, it's not the end". 🙂
26-04-2016 08:00 PM
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26-04-2016 08:02 PM
26-04-2016 08:02 PM
@Former-Member The quote is courtesy of The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel, and yes, but like with anything, it has provided me with a greater sense of empathy and compassion and I think, I hope, I have become a better listener, spouse, mother and friend in my own group of dear family, treasured friends and extending that to those I meet 🙂
26-04-2016 08:03 PM
26-04-2016 08:03 PM
Hi @Heidi1 and welcome 🙂
That is definitely a helpful point. Assuming that we are 'grieving wrongly' would surely discount our own unique and individual experience, and leave us feeling worse?
@awe and @And-016 have you ever felt anxious that there is a right or wrong way to grieve, or compared your own grief experience to others?
26-04-2016 08:04 PM
26-04-2016 08:04 PM
We are more likely to become stuck in our grief when we are shut down, not when we have the opportunity to explore the grief in our lives. The chance to speak openly and make sense of our experiences out loud with a receptive person or people, like Awe said, helps temper our grief.
26-04-2016 08:06 PM
26-04-2016 08:06 PM
Yes @Former-Member, I have changed over time , I am not the same as I was years ago , a better wife , daughter, step mother
26-04-2016 08:08 PM
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26-04-2016 08:09 PM
@Heartworks oh yes that's where I heard that quote from originally - The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel, what a great movie 🙂 It sounds like you have great insight and personal reflection around your grief experiences. What do you think about the idea that grief can be one of life's greatest teachers? Has this been your experience?
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